I live most of my days enjoying the small things in life and being proud about how far I have come and happy about what and who I have around me. Today is not one of those days. Today I am too aware that I am twenty five years old, yet I live life from temporary stage to temporary stage. Not to say that I want to have a routine, far from it, I can't handle routine, but it would be nice to have some more permanent things in life. In order to follow my dream I had to move out of my country and that's where my temporary life began.
I moved to England four and a half years ago, to start a degree that would hopefully jump-start my career, the dream career that I wanted for myself. I never thought I'd call that place home, but after four years it grew big in my heart. However, I've always seen my life there as a temporary thing. You might find that normal when you're in university, but not knowing where I would be next made me cautious about how I'd spent my money. Because of that, I feel like I've only lived half of what I could have lived. Maybe it's just my anxiety talking here, but whenever I wanted something for myself, I would always think about the money I should save for the uncertain future. I missed a lot of travelling opportunities because I didn't know enough about my future to know if I could spare a few quid, or because I didn't know if I would need to be somewhere else at that point in the future. Similarly, I never got a car like I wanted because I didn't want it to be a waste of money in case I had to move out of England. I know this comes from a privileged point of view and like I said I am grateful for all I have most days, but the mind just works in irrational ways sometimes and there's no point telling it "don't be sad, look at everything you have". It's all about perspective, and today's perspective gives a sad contrast to my life.
I eventually finished my stay in the north of England and moved to the lovely city of Cambridge, after four years. Things are much better here. The weather is better, the city is more lively, people seem friendlier and everything just seems a lot more pleasant and beautiful, definitely more colourful. It's still not where I want to settle. The weather is still not optimal, it's still not close to the sea, there's still not a lot of activities to be done when compared to other places and the salary is still not enough for everything I want. One of the things I want is to be able to travel a lot more, which requires money and time, and although I can afford to travel to countries in Europe, I still require the time and weekends doesn't feel like enough. In other words, having a nine to five job takes up most of the time in your life, so I can't even imagine people who struggle with more than a job or with crazy shifts and schedules and workload. It seems like we're not allowed to enjoy life and we are forced to try and find a job doing what we love. I count myself as one of the rare lucky people who are doing what they love, which is truly a privilege, but work is still work and even though I have fun at my job and it keeps me motivated, I still feel quite stuck. It's not hard to understand this, just imagine you love playing guitar: You may feel good doing it for four straight hours, but you eventually stop and go do something else, right? Even if you love doing something, it doesn't mean you won't get bored after some hours doing it, or even feel like you don't really want to do it today. Don't get me wrong, this is a hundred times better than having a job you don't particularly like or a job you hate, but wouldn't it be better if you could just do what you want when you wanted? Maybe a lot of people won't feel this way, they like to have the responsibility and purpose that a job gives. I'm not one of those people.
That said, I feel like my time in Cambridge is temporary. Yes, we are back on topic. Even though I found a job in a company that wants me with a manager that likes me, where I can grow quickly and get far, I still feel it's temporary. I don't want to live in Cambridge, as beautiful as it is. It's still not the sunny place by the sea that I want to settle in. And my ambition pairs up with this need to do break out of the routine job and makes me want to create a successful startup. However, I'm a person that always plays safe and I don't like risk when it comes to my career. Even though I keep my options open and future uncertain, I have a big safety net and my career choices are very solid in order to minimise the possibility of failure. This is why creating a startup is so scary for me and I would only do it after researching enough to know that it would most probably lead to success. I'll always have that startup idea in my mind, because it seems to be one of the only ways to achieve a life where you have a lot of free time to do what you like. That said, I plan to stay at most three years here and then move to sunny California, where the weather is great and there are a lot of things to do, including surf. Because of that, I only half live my life here. I wanted to buy a car to keep for myself, one that I like, but because my stay in England is temporary, I am required to buy a more temporary solution. I also want to live closer to the centre and with friends, so I can easily go for walks and enjoy how alive the city is and to be able to have people I love when I get back from work, but this would become more expensive monthly, once again making me consider a cheaper solution temporarily. A piano would certainly be a wonderful thing to have, but once again I know that even if I bought one, I would end up selling it, and once again it hinders my economy. In conclusion, my stay in Cambridge is once again temporary, for the next three years, at least.
But in three years I will be twenty eight and my energy will start to decline towards middle age. If I finally manage to find a place where I want to settle by then, I can finally start investing and saving for the car I want, the house, the piano, and everything else. And those are the prospects for someone as highly privileged as me. Most people will never even get there, or get there later in life, when they've lost all the energy needed to enjoy it. Have you noticed then? We're living a temporary life for most of our youngest years, not fully enjoying everything because we want a secured future. We're always carefully counting our money and time in order to achieve a future where our money and time will allow us to do what we love when we want to. And most of us will never even get there. Most of us will lead a temporary life forever.
At this point there's always those who will say "enjoy what you have" and "take pleasure from the small things in life". But while some people might be able to live happily with nothing, others might not be so free. Others, like myself, will feel trapped in their temporary lives, always expecting a better future. I truly hope you are not one of us, but if you are, I hope this post gave you a little more comfort by knowing there's someone else out there like you.